It was some days ago I was scrolling down my facebook page when I saw an update about LGTB rights by an Iranian female activist in my newsfeed. I noticed the last comments under the update and saw there was a hot argument going on. There was a person who was arguing against what the activist had written and of course was using meaningless logic, but what this activist wrote in reply to him made me raise my eyebrows. She used a very vulgar phrase in her comment, and I was a bit taken aback. Frankly, I didn't expect this. I was thinking with all her anger and irritation, she'd use logic and convincing sentences in her comment, which was absent there.
My question is, was that really necessary to talk like that? Yes I can understand we want to flip the table sometimes hearing some people's bigotry and ignorance, but as an activist, as a person who is considered a person to look up to, to be a role-model, was that really appropriate to use that language?
Watch how Ellen DeGeneres nicely defends herself and talks mockingly about a group of people calling themselves "One Million Moms" without using any impolite words:
"My haters are my motivators"
Or watch here how Rachel Maddow, MSNBC host interviews a man called Richard Cohen who wrote a book claiming gays can be cured. See how she questions him and put his own words in front of his face and asks him what the heck are these he wrote, and very ironically at the end of the interview wishes him success in his "personal" life. [I love Rachel's smirk, and her face in the second part of the interview at the end when Cohen talks about his successful marriage with his wife is so funny, not to mention how she frowns at him at the beginning like what is all this rubbish you wrote in this book]
So, by watching just these two videos we can say it's not really hard to destroy your opponent by keeping calm and using polite words. If not, then what the difference is between you and the bigot who throws abusive words here and there?
It was last year when I was reading an interview with another famous female activist. She has a PhD degree as far as I know and has had many lectures and speeches defending the rights of those who has been deprived of their rights. At the end of her interview I read: "I believe homosexuality is a choice, and we all kind of choose our orientation..." I was badly surprised and shocked. Is this what has come out of the mouth of the person who claims to be an activist and has a PhD? Congratulations.
This one is old as hills, I read it in 2005 I think. Those days there was a hot debate about homosexuality among Iranian bloggers and each one was dwelling on his/her own ideas. There was this young Iranian woman with a famous blog, and based on her blog posts I can say she considers herself a feminist, also based on her master degree she was taking in one of American universities. Anyway, to cut a long story short, she began her debate in favour of gay men by this sentence: "well I know that part of body was created and is used for pooping...". I must say gay men can't be happier to see their rights being defended by a text beginning with this sentence. What else?
I can continue but I think this is sufficient. Also, I drew my conclusion at the beginning of my post.